The Parenting plan is the parental agreement that outlines how children will be taken care of by separated parents. It outlines the arrangements for the child’s care and the decisions that will be made regarding them. It may also contain agreements regarding extra-curricular activities, education, and health. You can also include any specific needs or wishes of either parent, or about the child. If parents are unable to agree on a matter after the completion of the Parenting plan, they can include a statement about how the differences will be addressed. The Parenting Plan, in essence, is the roadmap that separated parents will use to raise their children.
A Parenting Plan is designed to help your children have a smooth relationship with their parents. This will allow them to be successful and happy.
While parents may be concerned about the details of the plan’s implementation, it is less important to determine how children of separated parents will develop. This includes the amount of time spent in each parent’s home, faith, school choice, extra-curricular activities, and other details. Parental conflict is the most important factor. The risk of a child suffering from poor outcomes is higher if there is more conflict between parents. Children are more successful if parents can come up with reasonable solutions to their differences. Parents may be in conflict with each other more often than they think. This means that it is more important to specify as much as possible, and to limit or control contact between them.
Parents are encouraged to create a parenting plan together, rather than having it imposed by court or arbitration. This is not to say that arbitration or court may not be necessary but should be considered an option.
Parents should first attempt to develop a plan together because no one else will have access to your personal details like you. Plans that are agreed upon between parents are more likely to be followed and last longer. Although a court or arbitral solution might be found, one parent will likely not like the outcome. They can try to alter it by either seeking to have the matter remanded to arbitration or court again or by doing what they want. These outcomes do not always end the conflict.
Talk to a mediator who has experience working with separated parents. A mediator is someone who helps people in conflict to reach an agreement by working together. This can be a stressful idea. Only you need to be open to the idea of trying. It doesn’t mean that you or the other parent must agree to it. Mediators are more likely to believe that the other parent will not reach an agreement. However, most issues settle or are at least narrowed by mediation.
For those who cannot meet together, lawyer assisted negotiation can be more beneficial. Each parent gives their lawyer their perspective and hopes for the future. Your lawyers will then negotiate on your behalf. This approach means that you might not know how your lawyer represented you and may not have access to any communication they had with the other lawyer. This can help to resolve the matter. A killed negotiator will be civil, respectful, not excessively demanding, but conciliatory. This approach can lead to conflict, and parents may not be able to achieve the level of detail they desire. The lawyers won’t be as closely connected to your case. This approach allows you to ask your lawyer to review every letter sent on your behalf. Anger-filled demand letters can lead to angry and demanding responses. You will be able to identify the source of these letters and represent yourself to the other parent.